It’s been quite awhile since I’ve felt like it would be ok to post. Set aside the fact that my younger sister died without warning in December from an anoxic brain injury or that my brother in-law, his wife, their four year old son and teenage daughter and four others were murdered in Appomattox, VA a couple weeks later, my feelings have been too intense, my heart too heavy to post on the blog. Isolation is sometimes where I go to heal.
There’s another reason I haven’t been posting updates and that is at Michael’s request. He is no longer comfortable with broadcasting the details of his injuries or recovery but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Awareness is progress.
There are levels of recovery; you may recall references to the Rancho Los Amigos scale; there are 10 levels after a brain injury.
Level I - No Response, Level X- Purposeful, Appropriate: Modified Independent
During this past Monday’s speech therapy session, Mike’s therapist said that he is a solid Level VII. If you care about Michael, this part is important to read and understand. First, I want to remind you that Michael’s accident on October 21, 2007 was due to his decision to drive after drinking with friends ~ he was not expected to live. I want to once again thank you for the surge of love and goodwill that ensued, the prayers for healing, the support for Michael and our family because it was so powerful, it was the most powerful thing I have ever witnessed. The movement, the prayers for a miracle is the reason my son is alive today. Michael survived against all odds and the blessing we received with that healing still knocks me to my knees. Amazing Grace - if you don’t know the lyrics, Google it.
What I want you to understand about my son is that he made a behavioral choice 10/21/07 - he no longer has that luxury. His damaged brain still trying to find it’s way, has not settled and is not healed. The truth - his brain will never be fully healed, he will NEVER be the same. Two years and five months later, the severe traumatically injured brain makes many of the behavioral choices for him. As difficult as it or he may be at times, it is worth it all. The behaviors will improve in time and we must find and have the patience to get him through this level of recovery. Without our support, without our understanding and compassion, the injured brain wins. I won’t lie, the behaviors can be painful and very frustrating. The aggression, the inability to control his emotions, or analyze appropriateness or assess the consequences for actions has been a driving force in Mike’s social life and friends dropping to almost non-existent. The isolation, the lonliness, the glimpses of awareness result in displaced anger toward me ~ Mike is pissed at me a lot these days. Sometimes I can handle it, some times I can’t but as I have always done; I breathe in, breathe out and place one foot in front of the other. I am still pushing, he is still pushing and he IS STILL beating the odds.
Please take your time reading through Level VII, it may help you understand; it may help you not to judge too quickly.
Level VII - Automatic, Appropriate: Minimal Assistance for Daily Living Skills
Consistently oriented to person and place, within highly familiar environments. Moderate assistance for orientation to time.
Able to attend to highly familiar tasks in a non-distraction environment for at least 30 minutes with minimal assist to complete tasks.
Minimal supervision for new learning.
Demonstrates carry over of new learning.
Initiates and carries out steps to complete familiar personal and household routine but has shallow recall of what he/she has been doing.
Able to monitor accuracy and completeness of each step in routine personal and household ADLs and modify plan with minimal assistance.
Superficial awareness of his/her condition but unaware of specific impairments and disabilities and the limits they place on his/her ability to safely, accurately and completely carry out his/her household, community, work and leisure ADLs.
Minimal supervision for safety in routine home and community activities.
Unrealistic planning for the future.
Unable to think about consequences of a decision or action.
Overestimates abilities.
Unaware of others’ needs and feelings.
Oppositional/uncooperative.
Unable to recognize inappropriate social interaction behavior.
These are the highlights; PERSONALITY CHANGES - SLOWNESS - POOR MEMORY - IRRITABILITY - TIREDNESS - RAPID MOOD CHANGES - TENSION & ANXIETY - AGGRESSION - LOSS OF DRIVE & MOTIVATION - LACK OF INSIGHT - LOSS OF FRIENDS - DISINHIBITION.
Aggression
Michael is less able to deal with frustration and cannot always use reasoning skills to cope. He has difficulty generating control over his emotional reactions, and allows irritation to emerge as aggression. His sudden outbursts of aggression are a reflection of a lack of emotional tolerance and it can put enormous pressure on the family. It is painful, it hurts, it didn’t get easier, it is harder than ever. Just ask Nate and Emily.
Disinhibition
Another tough one is the loss of the ability to inhibit urges. Mike can be impulsive and is often inappropriate with social behavior. He might make crude or sexually inappropriate comments to others. I think the lack of that understanding is what has largely resulted in the social rejection and condemnation for his behaviors. The problem is; a person with the brain injury cannot control what they cannot see or comprehend the need to control. It is, what it is.
Loss of Insight
As a result of Mike’s head injury, it is now difficult for him to make judgements about himself or to gauge other peoples reactions to what he says or to his behavior. He may not always understand why he can’t complete tasks which he used to be capable of doing. The lack of insight also affects the ability to understand other people’s behavior or motives, and many times he isn’t able to empathise or imagine how someone else is feeling. I hear it in the group meetings I attend with Mike, the brain injured person almost always comes off as self centered. loss of insight.
Loss of Friends
Disinhibition - discussing personal details or asking personal questions without recognizing the other person’s discomfort. I think that disinhibition and lack of insight is causing an unintentional alienation from others - he is losing old friendships and finding it very difficult to establish new ones.
Drive and Motivation
Damaged frontal lobe are parts that concern emotion, motivation and forward planning. Mike is working toward rehabiltating the very damaged frontal lobes and the cognitive ability that involves planning and analizing because they are weakened. It is more difficult to initiate or plan future activities. There are no normal levels of drive and motivation to carry out routine activities. Not a choice, it’s a brain injury.
The GOOD NEWS? Research!!! New research shows that TBI patients exhibit significant improvements in their social, cognitive, physical, and emotional functioning after 2 years post-injury regardless of the severity of their initial brain trauma. Patients who sustain severe TBI continue to make gradual improvements in their functioning for at least 10 years post-injury.
Michael, I apologize for the update but this brain injury can’t be swept under the rug. Knowledge is power and the more people know and understand about brain injury, the more improved YOUR life will be. You ARE strong like bull, buddy. You ARE crushing it, don’t let anyone tell you or make you feel anything less. I’m not perfect, you’re not perfect…life goes on.
Today begins the end of year two for Michael. For so long we thought that by the end of the second year, Michael would be where he was going to be and we should be happy with wherever that was. We were ok with that.
Honestly, two years ago on this day I would have been happy with just hearing he would live. The doctors or nurses could not or would not give us that for almost a month. A month of not knowing if your child would live or die is a lifetime. I would have been happy with a few encouraging words but there were none. They were supportive, they were honest, and when we thought a squeeze of a hand meant something, they might have been a little patronizing. They were many things, but they were never hopeful. No words of hope at a time when hope and faith were all we had. Hope that God would hear our prayers and faith that if we believed, we would receive. Hope and faith got us through the night but it was in you that we found the strength to believe in ourselves.
For me, your love and your support gave me the strength to breathe when I no longer wanted to, the strength to get out of bed and the strength to put one foot in front of the other. Walking through the fog of those days to somehow face the death of my son,whether it was the death of his mind - the Michael as we knew him or the death of the vessel, his body. To face that with dignity and grace took/takes everything; but to honor him and honor God who gave him life, I was/am willing to give it all.
“Your son will most likely be a vegetable”, I would have been happy with that. “He may not recognize you, he may not remember who he is”, I would have been happy with that. “he may be blind, not be able to walk”, I would have been happy with that. But that was then. This is now. I don’t say “I am happy with that” and leave it alone. Today, I am “the General” - Michael is pushed to be everything that he is capable of being. Today Michael is surrounded by the best support team we could ever hope for. The area’s top therapists headed and spirited by Brain Injury Services - the most caring, amazing case manager - Chris, no words could describe the gift Michael received in his neuro-psychologist - Dr Alf :), a specialized, wait listed speech therapist - Debi, an young up and coming cognitive rehab specialist - Anthony, a PAL - Mike A, and totally awesome Brian who jointly spearheads the Wise Guys. At the two year mark, Michael is moving forward toward recovery. He is still recovering from a severe traumatic brain injury and is seeing marked improvement. He will continue to recover as long as he lives, if that is God’s plan. He will continue as a survivor of the most devastating injury a human can endure. A severe injury to the brain affects everything you and I take for granted. EVERYTHING!
“Michael seems fine, is he driving?” How many processes do you think we use behind the wheel? Drivers must be able to concentrate attention in their central vision, but they must also possess good peripheral vision–the ability to see things “out of the corner of your eye” , and to perceive spatial relationships. You need to see and hear things that come from all directions and constantly decide what is important and what is not. Drivers need to process a lot of information and react quickly in an appropriate way. They must also make sure their attention and reflexes are sharp no matter how long or short the drive. When you drive you constantly make judgments, whether you’re in the midst of merging into flowing traffic on a busy highway or just deciding whether or not to drive through a heavy rainstorm. Making these kinds of judgments requires self-awareness and an understanding of your own strengths and weaknesses. Is Mike driving? No, not yet. He is still recovering from a severe injury to his brain. Injuries to the brain are not always visible on the surface.
Take two steps forward then one step back is the road we travel. There are many stages of recovery and out of the available labels, the rancho los amigo’s scale between level 7 and 8 is a pretty good reference. For friends and family, educate yourselves is the best advise I can give. The more you know about what happened to this person you love, the more you will understand why. If Michael behaves in a way that doesn’t make sense to you, if something is said and you find it offensive - don’t ignore it. Be kind, be respectful, be yourself because you can be. You may not have that control if you had a brain injury. It is something we take for granted. Educate.
I won’t go into the specifics of what those stages bring, Mike would prefer I didn’t. It took one moment for Michael to make that decision to drive after drinking, and it is nothing less than a lifetime of consequences he will bear. Don’t walk away - be patient. Don’t judge - it could have been you. Try not to be offended but don’t let it slide. He needs all of us to do right by him, help him to do right by us. There are many behaviors that are caused by neurological damage that may be confused with obstinance or being self -centered. A lack of abstract thinking might be more the cause - self awareness has to be re-learned.
Mike, I am so proud of you. This is not easy, but you haven’t ever made it easy have you? We are blessed with the lessons we are learning along the way and you are blessed to have the best circle of friends I have ever witnessed. As you have said so many times “blessed beyond belief”.
Friends and family - I am overwhelmed with emotion when I think of the love and support you have given us. Humbled. Grateful. Indebted. Appreciative. Unworthy. I am in love with you.
Level VII Automatic, Appropriate: Minimal Assistance for Daily Living Skills
·Consistently oriented to person and place, within highly familiar environments. Moderate assistance for orientation to time.
·Able to attend to highly familiar tasks in a non-distraction environment for at least 30 minutes with minimal assist to complete tasks.
·Minimal supervision for new learning.
·Demonstrates carry over of new learning.
·Initiates and carries out steps to complete familiar personal and household routine but has shallow recall of what he/she has been doing.
·Able to monitor accuracy and completeness of each step in routine personal and household ADLs and modify plan with minimal assistance.
·Superficial awareness of his/her condition but unaware of specific impairments and disabilities and the limits they place on his/her ability to safely, accurately and completely carry out his/her household, community, work and leisure ADLs.
·Minimal supervision for safety in routine home and community activities.
· Unrealistic planning for the future.
·Unable to think about consequences of a decision or action.
·Overestimates abilities.
·Unaware of others’ needs and feelings.
·Oppositional/uncooperative.
·Unable to recognize inappropriate social interaction behavior.
Mike suffered a severe traumatic injury to his brain. We say “injury” like it was a single injury but there were several injuries grouped under the “severe” umbrella, one of which was a severe diffuse axonal injury. Mike is trying to understand what happened to his head; what were the injuries and of those injuries how do they link to memory, and processing speed and well, you get the picture. So, he and I were doing some research this afternoon after his “new” speech therapy appointment and he thought it would be good to share something we read:
Diffuse Axonal Injury
Diffuse axonal injury occurs in about half of all severe head traumas, making it one of the most common traumatic brain injuries. It can also occur in moderate and mild brain injury. A diffuse axonal injury falls under the category of a diffuse brain injury. This means that instead of occurring in a specific area, like a focal brain injury, it occurs over a more widespread area. In addition to being one of the most common types of brain injuries, it’s also one of the most devastating. As a matter of fact, severe diffuse axonal injury is one of the leading causes of death in people with traumatic brain injury.
Causes of Diffuse Axonal Injury
Diffuse axonal injury isn’t the result of a blow to the head. Instead, it results from the brain moving back and forth in the skull as a result of acceleration or deceleration. Automobile accidents, sports-related accidents, violence, falls, and child abuse such as Shaken Baby Syndrome are common causes of diffuse axonal injury.
When acceleration or deceleration causes the brain to move within the skull, axons, the parts of the nerve cells that allow neurons to send messages between them, are disrupted. As tissue slides over tissue, a shearing injury occurs. This causes the lesions that are responsible for unconsciousness, as well as the vegetative state that occurs after a severe head injury.
A diffuse axonal injury also causes brain cells to die, which cause swelling in the brain. This increased pressure in the brain can cause decreased blood flow to the brain, as well as additional injury. The shearing can also release chemicals which can contribute to additional brain injury.
Prognosis of Diffuse Axonal Injury
It is thought that diffuse axonal injury can occur in just about every level of severity, with concussion thought to be one of the milder forms. In mild to moderate forms of diffuse axonal injury, recovery is possible, with the mildest forms of diffuse axonal injury often resulting in few if any long-term issues. About 90 percent of survivors with severe diffuse axonal injury remain unconscious. The 10 percent that regain consciousness are often severely impaired.
The more we research, the more Michael realizes that the severity of the injuries do not add up to the amount of recovery he has been able to achieve. “why me?” he asks not because he is feeling sorry for himself; “why me?” he asks as one would ask when they were afraid of the answer. The blog continues to be monitored by Mike’s watchful eye and he is still ”energized by your words”. Watching the video he is an observer to months of his life he cannot remember, those months we will never forget. He is unable to comprehend “was I sleeping when I was in a coma?” there is a quiet spiritual inspiration by what cannot be explained.
We lost the ability to link to the original video/slideshow that I put together last year and because it was tattooed in my memory, I was able to recreate it rather quickly over the last few weeks. On Tuesday, Jim kindly came over to help get the new ( hopefully improved) version linked back to the website. Thank you Jim! And to those that privately shared how the video and Mike’s journey is and has impacted your life, I say all glory be to God.
Therapy is free when you find it in a project that is close to your heart. I worked late nights for months putting pieces of the puzzle together to be able to share the tears, fears, the love of community and primarily the faith and hope of this journey with Mike. The slideshow chronicles life before and after October 21, 2007 when life as we knew it ended forever. Finding the music, searching through photos and while reading through each comment posted on the blog; an appreciation for the present evolved. The present, this day. The old saying “it is called the present for a reason” became very clear.
No matter what the day brings, it is a gift. I try to keep that little nuggett in the fore front of my thoughts but when I falter, all it takes is a 15 minute reminder of the blessings we have received. Fifteen minutes to remind us that in a blink of an eye everything can change. A reminder that we are not infinite. Fifteen minutes to remind us to thank God for this day, this gift of life; the present.
Michael Rosner was in a single car accident 10/21/07 because he made the decision to get behind the wheel and drive after spending the evening drinking with friends. He arrived CODE BLUE in the Trauma ICU - non-responsive, in danger of immediate death.
We are inspired by his strength and determination and believe it was through the love of this community, through prayer and by the grace of God that Michael is with us today. If you believe, you will recieve. We believe.
Host: Mike Rosner and Family
Location: Nokesville Park View Map
12560 Aden Road
Nokesville, VA 20181
When: Saturday, October 17, 11:00AM to 4:00PM
Join us for some fun in the country!
Volleyball, and food, horseshoes, apple snugglin’, water balloon toss, and food, some poopin’ in the basket, hoola hoop contest and food!
All of us will be faced with obstacles throughout our lives. We have to persevere and learn from them and some of us will have to work harder to reach our goals.
Who are we?
We are an ever growing community of friends, family acquaintances and strangers banded together with the purpose of supporting our friend, our brother, our grandson, our cousin, our nephew, our son in his time of need. We are moms and dads, teachers and students, therapists, worker bees, managers and administrators, we are well known and we are anonymous. We are you and me.
We feel it is important to Celebrate LIFE and the successes of ALL survivors who have each met overwhelming challenges with courage and hope.
There is life after brain injury and life is what we celebrate! Michael’s recovery continues to amaze us but he does not and cannot do this alone. So for the countless hours of hard work in therapy, we applaud Michael’s continued determination and success as a brain injury survivor and for having the courage to be just that-a survivor.
We also celebrate the incredible support of family and friends that help him walk this journey - we celebrate you. Through this second year you have continued to help us stand when many times we thought we could not go on.We are you and me. We are ONE. It is the LOVE of this community of friends and family that we celebrate.
Last year we asked that you bring your favorite side dish or dessert and it was such a great success. The salads, the cookies, the melt in your mouth BROWNIES - YUM-O - Please do it again!
We look forward to being able to Celebrate Life with each and every one of you because your life means so much to each and every one of us.
Below are comments from the last post. I wanted to bring a little more attention to them because as Mike deals with the nice pretty gifts that accompany self awareness; low self-esteem, depression, doubt, fear, regret, anger, frustration and it only gets prettier. I thought it was important to bring it to the surface. We will NEVER understand what this is like for him and for others who must live the rest of their lives with an injury to their brains. It not only changes who you are forever, it shakes the very foundation of your being. There is no escaping it. There is only learning to cope and compensate. It is still in the silence of knowing and then not being able to be the person you know. Still in the silence.
Nate
Sep 14, 2009 at 1:52 pm
sounds more like transitive - If a = b and b = c, then a = c( I had to look that up btw ).
But, Im sure there are plenty of other equations that you can apply to the situation.
Alex
Sep 20, 2009 at 12:35 pm
Hi Mike, just dropping by, and had a thought. Your progress = brain fitness. In three weeks I will be running a half marathon in London. I ran one at the end of July, so I know I can run a half marathon, because I’ve done it before, right? Trouble is, what with the children’s summer holidays/limited childcare/getting overtaken by life….I haven’t done any training since I ran my last race. I think that much of what you get frustrated by with your mother is stuff you know that you can do - because you’ve done it before. (I remember you telling me when I asked about your empty journal pages - I can fill them in, I just haven’t) But I think you will know as well as I do that if I’m going to put in a half decent performance in October’s race I can’t sit back admiring my last race medal, I need to get out there and put the miles in to build fitness. Even if I know I’ve done it before.
Mike (it’s him)
Sep 23, 2009 at 12:59 pm
No Alex (lieutenant), of course you’re right again. I don’t think so. I know that the fat unemployed loser who lives at home again, the person I’ve become. Just because I can talk a good game in no way means that I can necessarily walk that same game. I just feel I have to somehow keep my spirits up and sometimes I do so by making myself sound maybe a little better than I actually am currently.
rae
Sep 23, 2009 at 7:08 pm
Welcome to the world of it doesn’t have to make sense. Mike, you and I have weekly discussions about perception. Perception isn’t always reality but perception can become your reality if you’re not careful.
Perception - a person’s knowledge creates his reality as much as the truth, because the human mind can only contemplate what it has been exposed to. When you see things without understanding, the mind tries to reach for something that it already recognizes, in order to process what it is viewing. So what most closely relates to the unfamiliar from our past experiences, makes up what we see when we look at things that we don’t comprehend
With that in mind, let’s take the accident out. If this were your life as you described above, of course you would not be happy. No accident, no injury living at home, not working hitting 200 lbs…yeah, you would call/think of yourself a loser. But it was real. As much as we all wish it didn’t happen to you, it did.
Do you understand that you live at home because you were in a horrible accident and what you lost on Oct, 21, 2007 on I66 is not an easy recover? Yes. Do you understand that you may not be an employee but the job you have now holds more responsibility and more commitment than any other job you have or will ever hold? Yes. Do you understand that every function, yes, EVERY function is controlled by your brain, including your metabolism and that extreme fatigue comes absolutely free with an injury to your brain? Yes, you know that. Do you understand that a loser would not have the strength, the will, the courage to not be JUST a survivor and would not have the determination to overcome this “f’d” up thing that happened? Yes, you know this. But does the reality of it all become too much to look in the face some days? Yes and because of that, it is totally ok to make yourself sound and feel like a fricking superhero if that’s what it takes to get through the day.
Take Alex’s advise. You know it’s true…you have to put in the miles and you do. But here’s the error…if your perception is that you’re unemployed and live at home again = loser, your perception is wrong. You have not been here before. You haven’t done this before. Yes, you’ve walked, read a book, played games, learned to play a musical instrument before, but you’ve never done it with an injury to your brain so severe, that doctors said you would probably be a vegetable. Sorry Mike. You’re not a loser. You’re a survivor. A survivor of something so devastating that most would not have the inner strength to persevere. You’re a soldier and this is the mother of all marathons.
The battle - progress vs memory
Understanding the effects of TBI in your life requires that you make honest appraisals of who you are and what you hope to achieve within the context of your situation. Extremely difficult when the injury itself has affected self awareness, short term memory loss, problem solving and decision making. It means that doing things and understanding things takes more time and effort than before TBI. It means that your reaction time will be slower, you will become more excitable, and your sense of knowing will be different. It means that organizing and expressing your thoughts will be more difficult so measuring your own success seems an almost impossible feat. It means that self regulation and self appreciation will be diminished.
progress vs memory
Swimming in a streaming exercise pool…you swim for an hour and you’re still in the same place. In the moment, there’s no visual measure of progress. BUT - if you could remember how long you were able to swim when you began the exercise; if you could visually see where you started and could compare then and now, maybe it would help. For Michael, although it feels to you like you are swimming upstream without progress, you are achieving nothing less than miraculous measurable improvement.
Mike says to me “I think I’m done. I feel like I have plateaued”, rebuking the notion I give him examples of the progress I continue to see on a regular basis. Improvements in initiation - noticing that meds need to be refilled and gathering every prescription and vitamin from the cabinet and refrigerator. Sorting, filling, and then letting me know that a ’script needs to be called into Costco for a refill. Improvements in planning - without assistance, remembering to check the monthly view on his planner to see when he would have time to schedule a massage. Improvements in processing speed - M-F watching Wheel of Fortune and then Jeopardy, Mike is attentive and spitting out answers with the best of contestants. Last weekend I think he impressed quite a few of us. Spending a couple of hours on a Fantasy Football Draft conference call with Matt and Karl, which at any other time during this recovery phase just maintaining the stamina and focus would have been a huge accomplishment in it’s own right, but he also kept up with who’s turn it was, which players he needed for his team AND through all of that kept up and initiated some ”smack” talk which could have been a huge distraction . Accomplishments are notable and measurable, but my references to those improvements were not what the doctor ordered. I’m his mom - he thinks I might be a little biased and perhaps the same little cheerleader I’ve always been. He isn’t affected.
That Friday’s visit with the neuropsychologist - he doesn’t waiver. He says to her ” I think I have plateaued.” she looks at him with almost disbelief, looks at me then back to him and says ” not only would our visits be fewer or further between, but if I didn’t think you were continuing to make progress, I would most likely discontinue treatment. Mike, in just the last month, I have seen many cognitive and behavioral improvements…”. She continued giving anticdotal details and examples that confirmed her professional opinion. But that coaching session did not pick away at the concrete where the thought was planted - he knew this “was it” for him. We still hadn’t gotten through.
Already in place was a plan for me to meet with his Cognitive Rehab specialist after their session on Wednesday to discuss a day and time change for the upcoming few months. During the meeting, Anthony took the time to show Michael and I reports that were generated by the cognitive computer programs that Michael uses during their appointments. It was there that Michael was able to see not an opinion but something tangible; something on paper, in black and white (actually it was in color) that he was progressing! Michael could clearly see that from day 1 to present the marker of each exercise went up. Not down, not straight across; UP. In the beginning of one exercise for a particular cognitive area, Mike was at a level 2. At the end of this day’s session the report showed that each and every week from day 1 Mike had increased a level or two and was now scoring above the measurable scale. Not an opinion, measured and marked by this computer program and is just as concrete as that thought planted in Michael’s head making him think that he had plateaued. There are many areas…there is much more ahead… but for this phase, this wall - how do you spell relief? A-N-T-H-O-N-Y.
Progress vs. memory - I read something once that stuck in my head; a little abstract but here goes: our memories are what keep life in color and without them the “now” is in black and white; like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz. Being able to remember where you were and how far you’ve come = measurable progress = color/the land of oz. Measurable progress without being able to remember = thinking you’ve plateaued = black and white/ Auntie Em…Kansas. …I don’t know. It made sense to me at the time :)
Michael - it’s going to be ok. I know we are at a pretty challenging stage right now, you are often frustrated with me because I am the constant reminder that our work is not done. Many thoughts these days get planted in concrete and running into the wall time after time has become routine. BUT we will find a way to work through this. We will because it is the most important journey of your life.
I almost forgot to mention what took my breath away when we were walking the other day - Mike says “mom, I don’t know if it’s a transitive property or an associative property (I’m thinking I don’t know what either of those are but go ahead), I respond “uh, huh”, he continues “but I was thinking about the mathmatical properties of what has happened because everything can be connected mathmatically” Again I’m thinking, “really?” but say ” ok”, he then says ” if (life+drive) =work and work = dreams acheived then (life +drive) = dreams acheived”. We walk a few more yards and I’m still trying to figure out the answer to the whole transitive/associative thing and he says “so I’ve been thinking about that if (alcohol+driving)=life and life = dreams deferred then (alcohol+life)=dreams deferred. I have no idea where any of this came from but can I just tell you that I am absolutely blown away by the way his mind thinks. BLOWN AWAY! OBTW - he looked it up, it’s transitive he thinks.
If I can get the video to link, it is a video of putting potatoes and peppers in the basket that I took with my phone I apologize in advance for the poor video quality. But it might be a good reminder of your progress when memory fails to be the measure.
reference - basket of peppers Blog Post december 4, 2007 titled “Never Ending Faith”
Never Ending Faith? Still have it. Won’t lose it. You with me?
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